Sunday, July 29, 2007
Thursday, July 26, 2007
How to Succeed with Your Intentions
To be able to manifest your highest intentions in a life or in a relationship there must be an unobstructed channel for these intentions to emerge from. The purity of your flow and your conviction determines the power extended from your core. A pinched rubber hose filled with heavy mud allows a weak and restricted water flow to exit the nozzle.
The Path to experiencing fulfilling relationships is: by living in a place where there is an absence of fear and a presence of trust. Trust and faith, gives your intention greater extension and the power to your into the space of the field of energy/consciousness we exist in. If you fear frustration, un-fulfillment or their consequences, the tension of your inner core will tense, constrict, and prohibit the fulfillment of what you want. The power of an arrow with a chain attached to is weighed down by the weight of the chain and limited by the chains length. Each doubt or belief you get what you intend - acts as a counter force to your intention. Learn to be doubtless, full of faith and complete determination. Intention Counter Intention.
Effort Counter Effort
Yet even as you place this conviction into the arrow of intention, you must completely let it go for you so it is. Any attachment to your intention literally ties a chain to it and weighs it down preventing its freedom of movement to let consciousness organize around it. This often comes from an infantile belief that you will be annihilated if you do not have/get what you want. Your fear induces a cramp that acts as a counterforce a denial of your original desire to receive.
The quest for manifestation is to first commit yourself to recognize and overcome the fear and unconscious avoidance and resistance. Take steps to begin to reverse this hidden self sabotaging aspect of the unconscious. Admit to the destructive side you hold about yourself and others and express it as it wasn't allowed to be expressed back then. Through various activation and rehabilitation processes re-educate the infantile and ignorant aspects of yourself . Churn in your new ideas into other levels of your consciousness and sort through old beliefs, feelings, and body structures. Then you wait patiently for new connections to occur as you to let the infant inside grow up!
A Very effective exercise that can help you connect to the aforementioned idea to release unconsciously held inhibitions and weaknesses is by foot stomping - chest pounding - shouting What about me? - want some too - and ts not fair - Feel the movement and surrender to it emotion - until fatigue or emotional release. Use an image of a memory with a parent or person that best connects you to these feelings to help activate the emotions. You can also visualize another person who represents these feelings to you not getting what you want, or someone you feel opposes you.
Any person not bringing his or her unconscious feeling experiences into consciousness must bring all the repressed material into the next incarnation. The embedded material seeks out circumstance and people for the next incarnation that will give an opportunity to bring this dormant unassembled material to the fore again. Eva Perakos - The Pathwork of Self - To the degree you have not experienced transformation fully of your infantile needs, you must attract similar experiences later in life - the most painful element in it is the un-fulfillment of your legitimate needs as a child. The negation of your real needs creates your false needs. Whatever is real at one period of a persons life may be utterly false and unreal at a later period.
The law of attraction is clear - like attracts like. When your goal, wish or prayer comes from an ego belief of luck, fear or guilt - to prove something, get what you deserve etc. - the genesis of your goal was wished for while emanating in a field of consciousness based in fear, guilt or lack. And this negative laced wish attracts more the like kind of itself even though you verbally state the positive side of it.
The denial of the pain of relationships un-fulfillment perpetuates these unmet needs and projects it into a later time onto other people it is a false need! You can get now what you didn get then! Your ego needs wants are built on separation and therefore are weak and without authentic power. Ego goals often try to prove something to yourself or another, or create a sense of superiority being right or special - &rsquod rather be right than happy.
Your attempts at relationship wish fulfillment can create continued frustration and emptiness until restrictions to self knowledge and inner peril no longer dominate. Then as the super ego steps in with its need to be perfect it uses punishment toward yourself and then toward others, who are now distorted in your mind to appear to be the cause of your negative self feelings. This is termed projection.
Consider this: Real power never requires others to comply and give it to you. Intentions regarding relationships follow the same principals as anything else although these experiences are far more valuable. Relationships provide an opportunity to open up normally closed areas of your heart core and so can show you insidious layers of repressed emotion and thought. Every relationship you enter into is a holy encounter regardless of the out come. Infantile yearnings unsatisfied in the dark side of your inner child emerge significantly in relationships and are a fantastic opportunity for self awareness and correction. The real yearning for love, companionship and sharing can only begin to be fulfilled when the soul is ready to love and give. This must never be confused with the neurotic need to be loved.
The same person who demands others to demonstrate their love first before demonstrating theirs - will never know the truth that giving is receiving and it is true you can reap what you haven first sown! A baby has a small reach as it has limited mobility. It extends it hand to take, to get what it needs to feed it hunger and fill it needs. Instinctual consciousness directs infants while it develops it reach out - only to get what it wants. It gives nothing but it presence and constant demands. It learns to cry to get attention to having it needs met.
Remember needs are of the body and relate to its present survival. Babes learn to love That which fills their needs. Desires or/wishes develop as intelligence does after separation instances occurred when needs weren met. The mind begins its self imaging process and creates the formation of its personality. Desires/wishes are always an attempt based on the past and were efforts of the mind to compensate for what need wasn met in the body. Desires and wishes are hypnotic commands that will now replace the material flow of existence using its belief of wish fulfillments to replace what is they the pictures from the past unmet needs are used to monitor and judge the actions you take today. Wishes and desires are based on imagination - not what is and so it draws one into an illusion based existence caught in the movie playing in their head (perception).
Only when these infant distortions are broken through and adult you learn to give as an adult - from deep in your heart, fearlessly, convincingly, will the depth of a relationship be truly known.
As long as you believe you are really willing to love, but fate is slighting you and whom you can love - you are really ardently engaged in trying to fulfill the childhood need with a substitute parent. The Guide - (Pathwork)
Solution - give up old emotions and beliefs which encase you. - Learn to live in the now - remove all obstructions and real love will fill your present need.
What are adult needs - self - expression, growth, development, realizing ones spiritual potential - and never blaming another for your choices and what is.
Unreal needs are demands made upon others they can never be fulfilled.
To prepare yourself for having satisfying relationships first bring your feelings back to yourself learn to tap your inner resources and open the wells of giving and loving feelings. See the entire path as I show you in the diagram for manifestation The Big Picture of the steps for fulfillment. This is the path to freedom manifestation of your intention.
Remember: No matter how bad your parents failed - they cannot be responsible for your suffering now (i.e. they didn buy you a bike as a kid - so you were deprived and never learned - why haven you bought your own bike as an adult and have someone teach you?) Each time you reference your parents upbringing or past experience as why you made a poor disconnection choice now - you haven taken the responsibility necessary to own your current choice and action, forgive yourself of the mistakes, take corrective action, and peacefully try again.
To succeed in developing core manifestation - it takes a strong willingness and commitment to purify your core. Whenever there is obstruction, un-fulfillment or an un yielding wall in your life, an unreal need has to be looked for. Find and express the voice and recognize fallacy (i.e. notice there are happy people not in romantic relationships).
An infant seeks omnipotent rulership - a special position in which the surrounding world owes it unquestioned obedience. The infant demands everybody fulfill it desires. When it wish can be gratified - and it never can - frustration is enormous. This tension creates a drive for perfection to relieve the tension and obtain the control it feels it. As this is often not realized, feelings of inadequacy, inferiority, regret and guilt build to feed the False Core/False Self.
E xercise: Think of all the many relationships available to you in your work, hobbies, spiritual path, community, volunteering, sports, and other activities. Create a mural or collage of this. Make a mind map showing connections to one another to get a sense of the matrix of your consciousness. Meditate on the pure space of self and experience the unifying connection life has with life regardless of the form, action or location. Learn a deep and satisfying relationship with all of life.
On-going practice: Anytime you find yourself demanding something of others, trying to control everything around you, act hurt to make someone feel bad, do something to gain someone approval, or do something that really goes against who you are and what you value - Stop - Pause - Take a Deep Breath and shout it out This is my (name this infantile strategy) or quo or means of compensation of what I believe I missing) will not victimize myself with this belief anymore. I am aware I can make an adult choice now and I choose to do so. I forgive myself for my mistake and ask guidance for correction of my thinking. What I really want is peace and chose to discover another way to experience it and I open myself to it.
Thursday, July 12, 2007
The Clear Minded Children's Program at the Quantum Healing Center
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Thursday, July 5, 2007
Educate, Don't Medicate...
“The responsibility of those given power and authority over children is to be helpful and patient to create a safe, nourishing environment to learn and grow. Our constitution dictates the protection of our rights to be free in our pursuit of happiness.
Certainly forcing toxic and addictive drugs upon children is neither nourishing nor productive of a child’s right to be the creative person they are. Surely its time to choose another way that respects a child’s rights“.
THE EDUCATE DON’T MEDICATE CHOICE Complimentary and Alternative Medicine Solutions to Reverse The Symptoms of ADD/ADHD Without Medication The Clear Minded Children’s Program Eleven Case Studies By Dr. Brian Sheen
Surely there must be another way - a first choice that has zero negative side effects. Fortunately there is AND it costs less while bringing about greater family unity and strength that can last a life time to help children function successfully in schools and life.
Currently there is an estimated eight million school children as young as four years old are daily being dosed with Ritalin (a methylphenidate), Adderal and other addictive, cocaine like toxic drugs. Common side effects include insomnia, loss of appetite, loss of creativity, depression and increased risk of suicide.
Children on these drugs have a higher occurrence of stunted growth, Tardive Dyslexia, Turrets Syndrome and Tics. Additionally, due to the social stigmas associated often with ADHD labeled children they are given the message that they are disabled (and often labeled as such by the U.S. Government to qualify for thousands of dollars in Federal Funds), defective and broken, making them more prone to escapism through illegal drugs as they get older.
For over twenty years I have stood by and watched with horror at how this massive drug experiment on our future generation mushroomed. I couldn’t understand why such extreme and dangerous options were chosen without attempts to change the method and system that was providing these educational failures. Over the past 12 years as other parts of the world shunned the use of medicating students, the United States had over an 800% increase in the use of drugs for school children. The U.S. uses over 90% of the world’s production of methylphenidates (Ritalin etc.) and anti-depressants. Our entire country has been hypnotized by a continuous onslaught of pharmaceutical ads targeting different colored pills to make our lives happier. It reminds me of how the cigarette industry brainwashed so many to think cigarette smoking would make us sexier, more successful and help us enjoy life more. Haven’t we learned our lessons from the tens of millions who developed severe life changing illnesses and the millions who died of cancer? Is this tragedy about to repeat itself? After watching this alarming rise of doctor prescribed drug use on many school children, I decided to take a proactive approach and use the techniques I had used successfully with adults for decades and adjust them to work with children and teenagers. In order to address the origins of the difficulities rather then "treating" the symptoms, I developed The Clear Minded Children’s Program (TCMCP). TCMCP takes a totally different approach to dealing with unfocused and highly energized children.
Please note that I do not call children hyperactive, I term them energized. Hyperactive has become a term that associates the natural energy a child can exhibit as a pathological symptom of an illness. This line of thinking turns the blessing of having an abundance of life force into a curse. Unlike diabetes or heart disease, here evidence supporting the diagnosis can be seen in a blood test or X-Ray, “ADHD” presently has no biological indicators. To treat it biologically,with potential dangerous medications should be considered as a last resort and not a first choice. (Until an objective method of testing is created to show specific biological markers that demonstrate this as a “disease“ all those so labeled should have this diagnosis“ deleted from their records).
A human’s nervous system is an intricate and constantly adjusting biological process that seeks to maintain homeostasis balance to ensure the survival of the organism. ADD/ADHD drugs like Ritalin etc.. can reduce blood flow up to 30% to the brain while reducing the amount of oxygen, nutrition and the metabolic rate. These medications cause “brain failure” as part of the brain stops functioning while the neurotransmitter system is over activated to compensate for this shutting down. It’s common to see this result in causing tics, tourettes syndrome, stunting of growth, irritability and insomnia. Imagine causing these effects on children as young as three! Surely this is a punishment that can destroy the rest of their lives. TCMCP enhances and optimizes the brain function building the body’s systems naturally to provide it increased strength and development. Through the constant ebb and flow of information from the seven senses - seeing, hearing, touching, tasting, smelling, feeling and thinking, our bodies learn to adapt to our internal and external nvironments in pursuit of the maintenance of it’s existence. As the hunters and gatherers of yesteryear learned how to integrate the many influences they were faced with in their lives, our children today are also developing their neurological systems to deal with their experiences. We can not ignore the unprecedented speed of information and change that our current generation is exposed to. The fact that there are diverse responses to these influences is a testament to the creative intelligence our mind/body systems posses.
Perhaps more than anything we should view these children’s response as a message for helping our political, social, business and educational leaders to find new ways to create more flexibility, harmony and compassion in the plans they implement. This is why I view each child’s unique way of processing life energy and then provide a safe, non-drug solution to develop healthy and creative ways to utilize it. The Clear Minded Children’s Program addresses the root causes of “ADD”. Some of these causes are an untrained mind, misdirected education that suppresses creativity, acting out due to a stressed home environment, insufficient physical activity to discharge inner energy, a poorly balanced diet or something else.
EDUCATE DON’T MEDICATE We must teach children how to be happy in their bodies and environments; feeling their feelings them and learning how those feelings can help direct them accordingly in life. Drugging children merely masks the body’s needs and disassociates them from the mind/body feed back systems. To demonstrate this point let us look at a stomach ache. A stomach ache quickly tells you to stop eating what you’ve been eating or you’ll feel sicker. Our bodies communicate to us when we’re out of balance and need to make adjustments to get back into balance. Imagine if your stomach never told you when you’ve eaten enough! Our children can be strong and balanced rather than rugged and cut off from their body’s natural feedback system. If we numb children from what they are feeling, how do they learn the true result of their decisions and actions. Overpowering their systems with a potent and potentially dangerous, artificially created substances must be a last resort, not a first choice. TCMCP program is based on the principles of developing children’s strengths and transferring those skills to abilities that are not developed yet. Once children learn how to focus, relax, connect and make healthier choices, they thrive at school, at home and in social circles. They feel good about themselves and don’t walk around thinking they are cursed. I have observed and spoken with hundreds of children diagnosed as DD/ADHD. My observations have been formed from working with both parents and children. My research has clearly shown that labeling children with a disease because sometimes they don’t concentrate or are hyperactive, is FALSE science. These same ADD/ADHD children often sit three, four or five hours in front of a video game, TV or computer. Where’s the research that shows the biological imbalances this disease” causes? Should we start giving insulin to everyone who has a reaction to too much sugar thinking they’re diabetic? Of course not, you say, for that we would require a blood test first to check sugar levels, as injecting insulin can be dangerous!
Different conclusions as to the cause of ADHD/ADD could be deduced if these symptoms were understood as Attention Disinterest Decision. Who doesn’t fidget, get impatient or let their mind wander when they get bored or see no value to what they are watching or listening. Don’t we all get feisty and protest when we are forced to do something that we don’t find useful or fun? We’re creative, intelligent human beings, not programmed unfeeling robots!
I’d like you to consider a different interpretation of the facts: Whenever a child’s energy, interests and natural impulses are held inside or not expressed, this unexpressed energy causes an inner un-ease. Please check this conclusion with your own internal experience when your impulses are given an opportunity for release.
“THE EDUCATE DON’T MEDICATE CHOICE Since children are a voiceless minority without any authority, even over their own bodies’ voices, they are forced to change unwillingly. Since there has been no scientific evidence of the causes of “ADD” or “ADHD” , the prescribed, toxic drugs only affect existing symptoms and create new undesirable ones like insomnia, stunting of growth or depression! TCMCP addresses the underlying causes of the attention deficit through education, skill development, resolving harmful family conditions, training and validating what is right about these gifted children. There is no question that speed, uppers and other cocaine like stimulants can create artificial focus and energy and this is what Ritalin, Adderall and other methylphenidates do. The primary principle I began this program with was understanding that with dangerous “side” effects occurring in such a large percentage of students (often forty percent or more), I strongly believe that a safer way, at least as effective, should be considered first! I would love to compare side by side the results of TCMCP with those of long term medicated children. Recently a nineteen year old college student who has been on ADD medications since she was three years old (16 years!) came to see me. She was now taking Prozac to deal with the unwanted “side” effects of pulling out her hair her Adderal was causing (common side effects). When she heard I could help her be medication free she got excited to finally feel what her body was really like (although scared about the withdrawal symptoms from 16 years on speed). It is very common for children taking ADD/ADHD medications to be on two, three & four different medications in an attempt to relieve the long term effects the toxic drugs they are taking create. She already had tics in her face from her long term addiction: As she could only see me only once before returning north to school I suggested she begin TCMCP CD series. She quickly agreed and was very excited at the notion of being drug free. Later when her mother came to pick her up, her mother got angry she’d even considered being medication free as she declared this was an illness they both had (mom was also on medications for 16 years)! After doing a regression with this young lady it was obvious her mom used their “illness” as a defense against acknowledging the war like environment she placed her daughter in, as she and her husband were always yelling and screaming at each other, putting their daughter in the middle. By blaming her daughter’s imbalance on some pseudo-disease called ADHD (and one she said she was being treated for as well) she wouldn’t have to face the effects she and her husband caused. It was also apparent that the daughter was still in the midest of this war, even as the parents divorced 15 years ago as the mother used this “illness” to get financial assistance continually from her ex-husband. Drugging millions of school children with cocaine-like drug effects should be a last resort, NOT a first choice. Children need to have a clear mind and drug free body to build a productive future. These drug solutions cloud, mask and numb their minds poisoning them, while predisposing them to a drug dominated existence. STICKS AND STONES Most of us remember the rhyme “Sticks and Stones”. It reminds us that “names can never harm you”. Unfortunately in life, the experience of being called derogatory names does harm most people and can cause life altering consequences. The names many of the ADD/ADHD labeled children are given by other kids, teachers and parents are devastating. These labels include freak, idiot, Ritalin boy, pill pusher, trouble maker, learning disabled and anger management kid. It doesn’t take much intelligence to know any one of these labels is enough to harm anyone’s self image and therefore their ability to reach effectively into the world with confidence. A HEALTHIER SOLUTION I believe our attention should first be focused on the educational system itself. Schools should provide information that is relevant and useful. Any curriculum more than five years old must be updated. It’s time we stop cramming useless facts and figures into children’s heads to which hand held computers give them instant access anytime. Adults should help provide useful information on living in today’s service and information oriented era, while being willing to listen to the students on how to do this as they are the ones experiencing this. We should help students learn to think in new ways that enable them to sort through the flood of data to distinguish importance, priorities and relevance. A few examples would include: teaching children to obtain meaningful insights as to the causes and effects of events and history, while considering creative alternatives that could have changed the harmful outcomes. Doing an exhibit of projects, art, poetry, music, dance, theatre community service. Less fact memorization and more using what is being learned in focused and fun ways that create “joining” and shared interests. Helping children learn choices that can bring them inner peace is certainly more valuable than memorizing dates of what war started when. Understanding motivations for historical events, the effects of contrary belief systems and influences of vested interest groups can strengthen our children’s ability to reason, to evaluate and arrive at peaceful solutions that brings us together without dragging us in to a deeper conflict. Perhaps creating educational teams who work at their own pace to achieve a curriculums purpose can help students move in their natural rhythms and not get bored or feel rushed. It’s time to acknowledge – there must be a better way and giving dangerous medications to robotize our children only acknowledges that those educating have failed at being successful educators. This is a reflection on the incompetence of those in charge not on the children themselves. Our Approach The Clear Minded Children Program (TCMCP) helps families develop greater concentration, greater abilities to adapt their way of processing information in the world in useful and comfortable manners while learning to be able to function in a variety of life situations in a more coherent and productive way. Through meditation, yoga, bioenergetics, psychoneuro-immunology, hypnosis, neuro-linguistic programming, Quantum Psychology, Choice Therapy and other alternative modalities of transformation, my staff and I help children and their parents build and develop new abilities to relax, focus, participate and feel good about themselves. Children, parents and staff alike join in the goal to develop effective skills and be medication free! We believe today’s youth, combined with parental involvement, are smart enough to learn and change if they realize it is to their benefit. TCMCP capitalizes on people’s deepest desires to be free and happy, to feel inspired to live a fulfilling life in whatever way they choose without needing to take dangerous and toxic medications. A child’s mind is a proverbial blank slate when they enter this world. Like a computer they accept whatever input they are given without evaluation, as their programmers (family, friends, etc.) input their beliefs, values, attitudes and approaches. Consciously or unconsciously, they model themselves after their care givers and surrounding influences without the ability to analyze the quality of the information received. Substantial portions of this input comes in the form of fictional stories that are passed on from generation to generation without any thought given to what the metaphors mean and unconsciously begin to construct in a child’s mind. I’ve never understood why we sing a song to help a baby to sleep that invokes the imagery of rocking a cradle on a tree top whose “bough breaks” to have the cradle fall so “down will come baby cradle and all”. Visualize that in your mind and see if it comforts you and helps you to feel safe going to sleep. And don’t we all know someone - waiting for their knight in shining armor to come whisk them away from living in quiet desperation? When we remember that the ages between birth and five years old is the most active period of developing our core self, we can learn to be far more careful about the stories, home environment, and interactions between caregivers and children, aware that the child is using all their seven senses to mentally construct their self image and their perception of the world based on what they hear and see. Children are wonderful hypnotic candidates as they are trained to focus on the imaginary realms in video games, cartoons, movies and TV. Our job as caretakers of the next generation is to communicate positive and loving dreams with meaningful purpose to extend their creative and heart felt talents. The lessons we teach should help children access their own divinely given talents. TCMCP utilizes group sessions for the children and parents enrolled in the program. Small groups are created based on students energy levels and maturity. In these group sessions we do meditation, yoga, bioenergetics, masking, art, sculpting, play therapy, theatre, dance and singing to develop and encourage existing outlets of expression and discover new ones. All of these have now been put in a special CD series so anyone can learn to do this (go to www.clearmindedchildren.org). Our approach is simple: work with the generation of today to learn how they like to learn and express, while teaching parents/teachers how to pace the child’s energy to guide them both to be better focused, connected and able to make helpful and connecting choices. Pacing Is The Key Pacing is a process of building rapport by working in the rhythm and intensity level presented by the student. The preposterous idea that we artificially manipulate a students life-force to get them into the school system’s rhythm is not education but a process of domestication that one might do to an animal (though I’m sure effective animal tamers don’t even go to these extremes.) Do we really have an effective and relevant school system if it needs to drug eight million kids into submission? Frightenively (this number could easily double if Teen Screen is permitted to used (see appendix). We must keep in mind children don’t suffer from attention deficits, they suffer from Attention Dis-Interests from being forced to learn irrelevant, useless information in a confining jail like atmosphere. Every child I’ve ever met can spend hours playing sports, watching TV or instant messaging. They have all the attention they need when they are interested. Forced learning with the only purpose of passing some state based test like FCATS - is IRRELEVANT! Knowledge is not information, knowledge is a useful understanding of something that can be used to produce a result. Mobility and processing huge streams of information electronically and mentally to sort out the levels of importance are the major themes of our generation. It’s vital we all learn not to become overwhelmed with spam. Today it’s a world of mobile phones, MP3 players, satellite linked computers and WI-FI. Mobility must be integrated into our educational structures. Daily releases of energy are essential through PE, recess or creative classes done phonetically or with exercise. We need to UPDATE our learning system to recognize what IS and not try and force children into a system developed when NONE of the aforementioned inventions even existed! Perhaps Kahlil Gibran said it best when he said, in the Prophet “You may give them your love, but not your thoughts, for they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls. For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams. You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you for life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday“. Through parental involvement a strong bond is built as both learn helpful new ideas and develop new abilities to work together as a supportive family unit. Pacing lets us learn from the next generation how they are learning to deal with this future shock that would make even Future Shock author Alvin Tofler and Megatrends author John Nasbeth gasp! The internet has changed the way we live forever…and it’s only a decade old! Educating children to move with the current flow of life and helping parents adjust is vital to obtain a balance emotionally and homeostasis physically. It’s imperative we keep the sixteen to twenty years of school education relevant. Because of the advent of the computer every five years there is more information generated than had been previously generated in the entire history of man! The internet is the best yardstick for this growth. Google any topic and you’ll quickly see this for yourself. We are leaping forward at the speed of DSL! THE PULSATION OF LIFE A foundation principal of the TCMCP is that when there is a build up of impulse within an organism that is not provided a healthy release, it builds anxiety, frustration, anger and depression. Soon the body-mind builds defensive armoring to either numb itself or cut itself off from feelings building in their body. Sometimes this pressure builds so high it is finally released in a rage that can be very destructive. I utilize much of the research of Dr. Alexander Lowen, in Bioenergetics to teach kids to feel their bodies and use them as a feed back mechanism for making better decisions. This is a great problem with people on psychiatric drugs as most recipients feel wooden, numb or disassociated from their bodies’ feeling. THE SCOPE OF THE BOOK "THE EDUCATE, DON’T MEDICATE CHOICE: Complimentary and Alternative Medicine Solutions to Reverse The Symptoms of ADD/ADHD Without Medication Using The Clear Minded Children’s Program
Eleven Case Studies
I have written this book to describe eleven specific cases focusing primarily on the child‘s process. Parental involvement will be discussed in detail. The first subject is “The Troublemaker”, a ten year old boy who had been taking Strattera due to an ADHD diagnosis. The second history is a twelve year Ellen who had been on both anti-depressants and methylphenidates and had a “devil” inside her. The third case study is Ken, an eight year old boy who was on Ritalin, Zoloft, Risperdahl, Strattera and finally Adderal. In Latisha and her unstoppable smile, your heart will be warmed and inspired. Jessie is the fifth case study subject. And an excellent one in which to see the intricacies of how a family’s dynamics contribute to a child’s mental state. Roslyn is the sixth case study who, although not completing TCMCP due to a continued unhealthy family situation, she was still able to achieve success in becoming medication free. The seventh story discussed is what I call “Richard and the Angry Tree.” This example shows the complexities of family systems. The history of Natalie and her “inappropriate” behavior demonstrates how well a high schooler can turn herself around. The Journey of Justin - whipped, broken and repaired will probably bring tears to your eyes as you read it. The report on Ricky and his new possibilities shows how even in loss, great gains can be made. In each case they were successfully weaned from their medication and given new skills to practice in order be successful and stay medication free. Lastly is the study of Harold - from D’s and F’s to straight A’s while experiencing the disintegration and the start of a new reformation of his family system. Through this entire book individual child or family names have been changed to protect the privacy of these families. The newly released Clear Minded Children’s Program CD series takes you through all the phases which are in these case studies and many more that aren’t in this report.
This is howthe book THE EDUCATE DON’T MEDICATE CHOICE Complimentary and Alternative Medicine Solutions to Reverse The Symptoms of ADD/ADHD Without Medication Using The Clear Minded Children’s Program Eleven Case Studies
A Course in Miracles
A Course in Miracles is a complete self-study spiritual thought system. As a three-volume curriculum consisting of a Text, Workbook for Students, and Manual for Teachers, it teaches that the way to universal love and peace—or remembering God—is by undoing guilt through forgiving others. The Course thus focuses on the healing of relationships and making them holy. A Course in Miracles also emphasizes that it is but one version of the universal curriculum, of which there are "many thousands." Consequently, even though the language of the Course is that of traditional Christianity, it expresses a non-sectarian, non-denominational spirituality. A Course in Miracles therefore is a universal spiritual teaching, not a religion.
The "Text" presents the theory of the Course and has built into its study the development of the experience of forgiveness that is the Course's goal for the student. In this regard, A Course in Miracles states that "its goal for you is happiness and peace." (Text, p. 241) (T-13.II.7:1) The Text also explains the basis for fear and guilt, and how they can be overcome through miracles, which are defined as maximal "expressions of love." The miracle is defined as the shift in perception from fear to love.
The "Workbook for Students" consists of 365 lessons, an exercise for each day of the year. This one-year training program begins the process of changing the student's mind and perception, though it is not intended to bring one's learning to completion. As stated in the Preface to the Course, "At the end, the reader is left in the hands of his or her own Internal Teacher, Who will direct all subsequent learning as He sees fit." (Preface: ix)
"The purpose of the workbook is to train your mind in a systematic way to a different perception of everyone and everything in the world. The exercises are planned to help you generalize the lessons, so that you will understand that each of them is equally applicable to everyone and everything you see.
"The overall aim of the exercises is to increase your ability to extend the ideas you will be practicing to include everything. This will require no effort on your part. The exercises themselves meet the conditions necessary for this kind of transfer."
In addition, a little faith in the process and in your inherent ability to understand and succeed will be helpful, but even that is not required if you are willing to seek the truth about yourself and the world, and the happiness that awaits you for your efforts. The introduction goes on to encourage us to trust in ourselves and in Who It is that is always with us to direct us along the way:
"Some of the ideas the workbook presents you will find hard to believe, and others may seem to be quite startling. This does not matter. You are merely asked to apply the ideas as you are directed to do. You are not asked to judge them at all. You are asked only to use them. It is their use that will give them meaning to you, and will show you that they are true.
"Remember only this; you need not believe the ideas, you need not accept them, and you need not even welcome them. Some of them you may actively resist. None of this will matter, or decrease their efficacy. But do not allow yourself to make exceptions in applying the ideas the workbook contains, and whatever your reactions to the ideas may be, use them. Nothing more than that is required,"
There are a variety of things you could do that might serve as companion to your visit to the day's Lesson, such as relaxing and listening with eyes open or closed to what is read, using the spoken word to follow the printed word from the Workbook itself, or even joining friends in support of one another's efforts along the way. Whatever your method, the important thing is that you proceed in a way that is comfortable for you and that fits your personal study habits and lifestyle.
The "Manual for Teachers" is written in question-and-answer form and provides answers to some of the more likely questions a student might ask. It also includes clarification of a number of terms the Course uses, explaining them within the theoretical framework of the Text and for their practical application through the Workbook.
What It Says
Nothing real can be threatened. Nothing unreal exists. Herein lies the peace of God.
This is how A Course in Miracles begins. It makes a fundamental distinction between the real and the unreal; between knowledge and perception. Knowledge is truth, under one law, the law of love or God. Truth is unalterable, eternal, and unambiguous. It can be unrecognized, but it cannot be changed. It applies to everything that God created, and only what He created is real. It is beyond learning because it is beyond time and process. It has no opposite; no beginning and no end. It merely is.
The world of perception, on the other hand, is the world of time, of change, of beginnings and endings. It is based on interpretation, not on facts. It is the world of birth and death, founded on the belief in scarcity, loss, separation, and death. It is learned rather than given, selective in its perceptual emphases, unstable in its functioning, and inaccurate in its interpretations.
From knowledge and perception respectively, two distinct thought systems arise which are opposite in every respect. In the realm of knowledge no thoughts exist apart from God, because God and His Creation share one Will. The world of perception, however, is made by the belief in opposites and separate wills, in perpetual conflict with each other and with God. What perception sees and hears appears to be real because it permits into awareness only what conforms to the wishes of the perceiver. This leads to a world of illusions, a world which needs constant defense precisely because it is not real.
When you have been caught in the world of perception you are caught in a dream. You cannot escape without help, because everything your senses show merely witnesses to the reality of the dream. God has provided the Answer, the only Way out, the true Helper. It is the function of His Voice, His Holy Spirit, to mediate between the two worlds. He can do this because, while on the one hand He knows the truth, on the other He also recognizes our illusions, but without believing in them. It is the Holy Spirit's goal to help us escape from the dream world by teaching us how to reverse our thinking and unlearn our mistakes. Forgiveness is the Holy Spirit's great learning aid in bringing this thought reversal about. However, the Course has its own definition of what forgiveness really is just as it defines the world in its own way.
The world we see merely reflects our own internal frame of reference—the dominant ideas, wishes and emotions in our minds. "Projection makes perception" (Text, p. 445). We look inside first, decide the kind of world we want to see and then project that world outside, making it the truth as we see it. We make it true by our interpretations of what it is we are seeing. If we are using perception to justify our own mistakes—our anger, our impulses to attack, our lack of love in whatever form it may take—we will see a world of evil, destruction, malice, envy and despair. All this we must learn to forgive, not because we are being "good" and "charitable," but because what we are seeing is not true. We have distorted the world by our twisted defenses, and are therefore seeing what is not there. As we learn to recognize our perceptual errors, we also learn to look past them or "forgive." At the same time we are forgiving ourselves, looking past our distorted self-concepts to the Self That God created in us and as us.
Sin is defined as "lack of love" (Text, p. 11). Since love is all there is, sin in the sight of the Holy Spirit is a mistake to be corrected, rather than an evil to be punished. Our sense of inadequacy, weakness, and incompletion comes from the strong investment in the "scarcity principle" that governs the whole world of illusions. From that point of view, we seek in others what we feel is wanting in ourselves. We "love" another in order to get something ourselves. That, in fact, is what passes for love in the dream world. There can be no greater mistake than that, for love is incapable of asking for anything.
Only minds can really join, and whom God has joined no man can put asunder (Text, p. 356). It is, however, only at the level of Christ Mind that true union is possible, and has, in fact, never been lost. The "little I" seeks to enhance itself by external approval, external possessions, and external "love." The Self That God created needs nothing. It is forever complete, safe, loved, and loving. It seeks to share rather than to get; to extend rather than project. It has no needs and wants to join with others out of their mutual awareness of abundance.
The special relationships of the world are destructive, selfish, and childishly egocentric. Yet, if given to the Holy Spirit, these relationships can become the holiest things on earth—the miracles that point the way to the return to Heaven. The world uses its special relationships as a final weapon of exclusion and a demonstration of separateness. The Holy Spirit transforms them into perfect lessons in forgiveness and in awakening from the dream. Each one is an opportunity to let perceptions be healed and errors corrected. Each one is another chance to forgive oneself by forgiving the other. And each one becomes still another invitation to the Holy Spirit and to the remembrance of God.
Perception is a function of the body, and therefore represents a limit on awareness. Perception sees through the body's eyes and hears through the body's ears. It evokes the limited responses which the body makes. The body appears to be largely self-motivated and independent, yet it actually responds only to the intentions of the mind. If the mind wants to use it for attack in any form, it becomes prey to sickness, age, and decay. If the mind accepts the Holy Spirit's purpose for it instead, it becomes a useful way of communicating with others, invulnerable as long as it is needed, and to be gently laid by when its use is over. Of itself it is neutral, as is everything in the world of perception. Whether it is used for the goals of the ego or the Holy Spirit depends entirely on what the mind wants.
The opposite of seeing through the body's eyes is the vision of Christ, which reflects strength rather than weakness, unity rather than separation, and love rather than fear. The opposite of hearing through the body's ears is communication through the Voice for God, the Holy Spirit, which abides in each of us. His Voice seems distant and difficult to hear because the ego, which speaks for the little, separated self, seems to be much louder. This is actually reversed. The Holy Spirit speaks with unmistakable clarity and overwhelming appeal. No one who does not choose to identify with the body could possibly be deaf to His messages of release and hope, nor could he fail to accept joyously the vision of Christ in glad exchange for his miserable picture of himself.
Christ's vision is the Holy Spirit's gift, God's alternative to the illusion of separation and to the belief in the reality of sin, guilt, and death. It is the one correction for all errors of perception; the reconciliation of the seeming opposites on which this world is based. Its kindly light shows all things from another point of view, reflecting the thought system that arises from knowledge and making return to God not only possible but inevitable. What was regarded as injustices done to one by someone else, now becomes a call for help and for union. Sin, sickness, and attack are seen as misperceptions calling for remedy through gentleness and love. Defenses are laid down because where there is no attack there is no need for them. Our brothers' needs become our own, because they are taking the journey with us as we go to God. Without us they would lose their way. Without them we could never find our own.
Forgiveness is unknown in Heaven, where the need for it would be inconceivable. However, in this world, forgiveness is a necessary correction for all the mistakes that we have made. To offer forgiveness is the only way for us to have it, for it reflects the law of Heaven that giving and receiving are the same. Heaven is the natural state of all the Sons of God as He created them. Such is their reality forever. It has not changed because it has been forgotten.
Forgiveness is the means by which we will remember. Through forgiveness the thinking of the world is reversed. The forgiven world becomes the gate of Heaven, because by its mercy we can at last forgive ourselves. Holding no one prisoner to guilt, we become free. Acknowledging Christ in all our brothers, we recognize His Presence in ourselves. Forgetting all our misperceptions, and with nothing from the past to hold us back, we can remember God. Beyond this, learning cannot go. When we are ready, God Himself will take the final step in our return to Him.
Neuro Linguistic Programming
Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) is a method, set of techinques, or personal development system developed in the early 1970s by Richard Bandler and linguist John Grinder, in association with Gregory Bateson. It uses a toolbox of strategies, axioms and beliefs about human communication, perception and subjective experience.
NLP's core idea is that an individual's thoughts, gestures and words interact to create their perception of the world. By changing their outlook, using a variety of techniques, a person can improve their attitudes and actions. I call it "the study of the structure of subjective experience".
NLP teaches that a person can develop successful habits by amplifying helpful behaviors and diminishing negative ones. Positive change can come when one carefully reproduces the behaviors and beliefs of successful people (called 'modeling'). It also states that all human beings have all the resources necessary for success within themselves.
Bandler and Grinder credited three successful therapists — Fritz Perls, Virginia Satir and Milton Erickson — as NLP's major inspirations. They 'modeled' the therapists and developed special "patterns" for general communication, rapport-building and self-improvement.
What is NLP?
Neuro: The nervous system senses signals to the mind, through which our worldly experience is processed via five senses:
• Visual
• Auditory
• Kinesthetic
• Olfactory
• Gustatory
Linguistic: Language and other nonverbal communication systems through which our neural representations are coded, ordered and given meaning.
Includes:
• Pictures
• Sounds
• Feelings
• Tastes
• Smells
• Words (Self Talk)
Programming: The ability to discover and utilize the programs that we run (our communication to ourselves and others) in our neurological systems to achieve our specific and desired outcomes.
In other words, NLP is how to use the language of the mind to consistently achieve our specific and desired outcomes.
When was NLP created?
NLP was initially created in the 1970’s by Richard Bandler a student of mathematics and gestalt therapy and John Grinder a Professor of Linguistics at The University of California Santa Cruz. They began modeling and duplicating the "magical results" of a few top communicators and therapists.
Some of the first people they studied included Hypnotherapist Milton Erickson, gestalt therapist Fritz Perls and family therapist Virginia Satir. Since then, many others have contributed to the growth and development of the field.
What are some beliefs of NLP?
(This is a short list summarizing some of the thinking behind NLP)
• People are not their behaviors. Accept the person; change the behavior
• People have all the resources they need to succeed and achieve their desired outcomes
• The meaning of the communication is the response you get
• Everyone is doing the best they can with the resources they have available
• We are in charge of our minds and therefore our results
• There is no failure, only feedback
Bioenergetics
Bioenergetic Analysis is a body-oriented psychotherapy based on the expression of feelings and the re-establishment of energy flow in the body. Developed out of Wilhelm Reich's character analytic technique of vegetotherapy by Alexander Lowen and others, it is practised under the auspices of the International Institute for Bioenergetic Analysis. Bioenergetic Analysis recognises several clearly circumscribed human character structures, each able to be "read" in the form and posture of the individual's body: schizoid, oral, masochistic, psychopathic, rigid and narcissistic. Bioenergetic treatment involves the adoption of one of a number of "stress positions" designed to promote confronting the individual with his or her structure, and the repressed emotions holding it together. The most common position is standing upright, knees slightly bent, weight on the centre to outside of the feet, belly relaxed (the"grounded" position); then fists pushed into the middle of the back (to open the chest region}; and head up and chin pushed slightly forward (assertion of the right to be/feel). Bioenergetic Analysis is practised as an individual and as a group psychotherapy.
In therapy groups, the most common application of bioenergetics is in exercises such as beating a pile of mattresses with a tennis racquet or the fists, or lying on the back on a mattress kicking and yelling. This method is thought within co-counselling movements like Re-evaluation Counselling to be based on promoting bodily emotional discharge. The basic tenet is that when a person breathes deeply, he or she can begin to feel deeply, and that with deep feeling comes a resurgence of repressed feelings and lost memories, which need to be understood both on the feeling and reflective levels through catharsis, verbal processing and physically grounding the individual in emotional reality.
Hypnotherapy
What is hypnotherapy?
The term "hypnosis" is derived from the Greek word hypnos , meaning "sleep." Hypnotherapists typically use exercises that bring about deep relaxation and an altered state of consciousness, also known as a trance. Many people routinely experience a trance-like state while they are watching television or sitting at a red light. A person in a trance or deeply focused state is unusually responsive to an idea or image, but this does not mean that a hypnotist can control his or her mind and free will. On the contrary, hypnosis can actually teach people how to master their own states of awareness. By doing so they can affect their own bodily functions and psychological responses
What is the history of hypnosis?
Throughout history, trance states have been used by shamans and ancient peoples in ritualistic activities. But hypnosis as we know it today was first associated with the work of an Austrian physician named Franz Anton Mesmer. In the 1700s, Mesmer used magnets and other hypnotic techniques (hence the word, mesmerized ) to treat people, and while he achieved a number of dramatic "cures" for blindness, paralysis, headache, and joint pain, the medical community was not convinced. Mesmer was accused of fraud and his techniques called unscientific.
Hypnotherapy regained popularity in the mid-1900's due in to the notoriety and career of Milton H. Erickson (1901-1980), a successful psychiatrist who used hypnosis in his practice. In 1958, both the American Medical Association and the American Psychological Association recognized the therapy as a valid medical procedure. And since 1995, the National Institutes of Health has recommended hypnotherapy as a treatment for chronic pain. Other conditions for which hypnotherapy is frequently used include anxiety and addiction; see the section entitled What illnesses or conditions respond well to hypnotherapy?
How does hypnosis work?
When something new happens to us, we remember it and learn a particular behavior in response to that circumstance. Memories stored in our mind hold the original physical and emotional reactions that occurred when the given memory was first formed. Each time similar events occur again, the physical and emotional reactions attached to the memory are repeated. These reactions may be inappropriate or unhealthy. In hypnotherapy, the trained therapist guides you to remember the event that led to the first reaction, separate the memory from the learned behavior, and reconstruct the event with new, healthier associations.
During hypnosis, a person's body relaxes while his or her thoughts become more focused and attentive. Like other relaxation techniques, hypnosis decreases blood pressure and heart rate, and alters certain types of brain wave activity. In this relaxed state, a person will feel very at ease physically yet fully awake mentally. In this state of deep concentration people are highly responsive to suggestion. If you are trying to quit smoking, for example, a therapist's suggestion may successfully convince you that in the future you will have a strong dislike for the taste of cigarettes.
There are several stages of hypnosis. The process begins with reframing the problem; becoming relaxed, then absorbed (deeply engaged in the words or images presented by a hypnotherapist); dissociating (letting go of critical thoughts); responding (complying whole-heartedly to a hypnotherapist's suggestions); returning to usual awareness; and reflecting on the experience.
What happens during a visit to the hypnotherapist?
During your first visit to a hypnotherapist, he or she will ask you questions about your medical history and what brought you to see them – in other words, what condition it is that you would like to clear up. The specialist will then, likely, explain to you what hypnosis is and how it works. You will then be directed through relaxation techniques with a series of mental images and suggestions intended to change behaviors and alleviate symptoms. For example, people who suffer from panic attacks may be given the suggestion that, in the future, they will be able to relax at will. The hypnotherapist may also teach you the basics of self-hypnosis and give you an audio CD for home use. This enables you to recreate the feelings you experienced during the session and reinforce the learning on your own.
How many treatments will I need?
During your first visit to a hypnotherapist, he or she will ask you questions about your medical history and what brought you to see them – in other words, what condition it is that you would like to clear up. The specialist will then, likely, explain to you what hypnosis is and how it works. You will then be directed through relaxation techniques with a series of mental images and suggestions intended to change behaviors and alleviate symptoms. For example, people who suffer from panic attacks may be given the suggestion that, in the future, they will be able to relax at will. The hypnotherapist may also teach you the basics of self-hypnosis and give you an audio CD for home use. This enables you to recreate the feelings you experienced during the session and reinforce the learning on your own.
What illnesses or conditions respond well to hypnosis?
Hypnosis is used in a variety of settings – from emergency rooms to dental offices to outpatient clinics – to relieve conditions with an emotional or psychological component. Studies suggest that hypnosis may improve immune function, increase relaxation, decrease stress, and ease feelings of anxiety.
Hypnotherapy is effective in reducing the fear and anxiety that accompany pain and uncomfortable medical or dental procedures. For example, when used during an operation, hypnosis may improve recovery time and decrease anxiety as well as pain following the surgery. Clinical trials on burn patients suggest that hypnosis decreases pain (enough to replace pain medication) and speeds healing. Generally, studies indicate that using hypnosis can lessen your need for medication, improve your mental and physical condition before an operation, and reduce the time it takes to recover. Dentists also use hypnotherapy to control gagging and bleeding.
A hypnotherapist can teach you self-regulation skills. For instance, someone with arthritis may be told that he or she can turn down pain like the volume on a radio. Hypnotherapy can also be an effective tool for managing chronic illness. Self-hypnosis can enhance a sense of control, which is often eroded by chronic illness. Children may benefit the most from hypnosis, probably because they are most easily hypnotized.
Studies on children in emergency treatment centers show that hypnotherapy reduces fear, anxiety, and discomfort and improves self-control and cooperation with medical personnel.
In another study, 83 percent of children significantly or completely recovered from the following:
• obesity
• asthma
• fecal incontinence
• anxiety
• pain
• problematic habits (sleep walking, thumb sucking, nail biting)
Other problems or conditions that respond well to hypnotherapy include:
• inflammatory bowel diseases (namely, Crohn's disease and ulcerative colitis)
• sleep disorders, including insomnia
• addictions
• warts
• bedwetting
• fibromyalgia
• irritable bowel syndrome
• phobias
• labor and delivery
• fractures
• skin disorders (such as acne, psoriasis, and eczema [atopic dermatitis])
• migraine headaches
• stress
• tinnitus (ringing in the ears)
• cancer related pain
• weight loss
• eating disorders, namely anorexia and bulimia
• indigestion (dyspepsia)
Techniques
_ Age regression - by returning to an earlier ego-state the patient can regain qualities they once had, but have lost. Remembering an earlier, healthier, ego-state can increase the patients' strength and confidence. _ Revivification - remembering past experiences can contribute to therapy. For example; the hypnotist may ask "have you ever been in trance?" and then find it easier to revive the previous experience than attempt inducing a new state. _ Guided imagery - a method by which the subject is given a new relaxing and beneficial experience. _ Parts therapy - a method pioneered by Charles Tebbetts to identify conflicting parts that are damaging the well being of clients, then helps those parts negotiate with each other through the therapist to bring about a resolution. _ Confusion - a method developed by Milton H. Erickson in which the subject is more likely to be receptive to indirect suggestion due to an altered state of confusion. _ Repetition - the more an idea is repeated the more likely it is to be accepted and acted upon by the patient. _ Direct suggestion - suggesting directly. "You feel safe and secure". _ Indirect suggestion - using "interspersal" technique and other means to cause effect. _ Mental state - people are more receptive while relaxed, sleeping, or in a trance. _ Hypnoanalysis - the client recalls moments from his past, confronting them and releasing associated emotions, similar to psychoanalysis. _ Post-hypnotic suggestion - a suggestion that will be carried out after the trance has ended. "When you re-awaken you will feel refreshed and happy!" _ Visualization - being told to imagine or visualize a desired outcome seems to make it more likely to actually occur.
