To be able to manifest your highest intentions in a life or in a relationship there must be an unobstructed channel for these intentions to emerge from. The purity of your flow and your conviction determines the power extended from your core. A pinched rubber hose filled with heavy mud allows a weak and restricted water flow to exit the nozzle.
The Path to experiencing fulfilling relationships is: by living in a place where there is an absence of fear and a presence of trust. Trust and faith, gives your intention greater extension and the power to your into the space of the field of energy/consciousness we exist in. If you fear frustration, un-fulfillment or their consequences, the tension of your inner core will tense, constrict, and prohibit the fulfillment of what you want. The power of an arrow with a chain attached to is weighed down by the weight of the chain and limited by the chains length. Each doubt or belief you get what you intend - acts as a counter force to your intention. Learn to be doubtless, full of faith and complete determination. Intention Counter Intention.
Effort Counter Effort
Yet even as you place this conviction into the arrow of intention, you must completely let it go for you so it is. Any attachment to your intention literally ties a chain to it and weighs it down preventing its freedom of movement to let consciousness organize around it. This often comes from an infantile belief that you will be annihilated if you do not have/get what you want. Your fear induces a cramp that acts as a counterforce a denial of your original desire to receive.
The quest for manifestation is to first commit yourself to recognize and overcome the fear and unconscious avoidance and resistance. Take steps to begin to reverse this hidden self sabotaging aspect of the unconscious. Admit to the destructive side you hold about yourself and others and express it as it wasn't allowed to be expressed back then. Through various activation and rehabilitation processes re-educate the infantile and ignorant aspects of yourself . Churn in your new ideas into other levels of your consciousness and sort through old beliefs, feelings, and body structures. Then you wait patiently for new connections to occur as you to let the infant inside grow up!
A Very effective exercise that can help you connect to the aforementioned idea to release unconsciously held inhibitions and weaknesses is by foot stomping - chest pounding - shouting What about me? - want some too - and ts not fair - Feel the movement and surrender to it emotion - until fatigue or emotional release. Use an image of a memory with a parent or person that best connects you to these feelings to help activate the emotions. You can also visualize another person who represents these feelings to you not getting what you want, or someone you feel opposes you.
Any person not bringing his or her unconscious feeling experiences into consciousness must bring all the repressed material into the next incarnation. The embedded material seeks out circumstance and people for the next incarnation that will give an opportunity to bring this dormant unassembled material to the fore again. Eva Perakos - The Pathwork of Self - To the degree you have not experienced transformation fully of your infantile needs, you must attract similar experiences later in life - the most painful element in it is the un-fulfillment of your legitimate needs as a child. The negation of your real needs creates your false needs. Whatever is real at one period of a persons life may be utterly false and unreal at a later period.
The law of attraction is clear - like attracts like. When your goal, wish or prayer comes from an ego belief of luck, fear or guilt - to prove something, get what you deserve etc. - the genesis of your goal was wished for while emanating in a field of consciousness based in fear, guilt or lack. And this negative laced wish attracts more the like kind of itself even though you verbally state the positive side of it.
The denial of the pain of relationships un-fulfillment perpetuates these unmet needs and projects it into a later time onto other people it is a false need! You can get now what you didn get then! Your ego needs wants are built on separation and therefore are weak and without authentic power. Ego goals often try to prove something to yourself or another, or create a sense of superiority being right or special - &rsquod rather be right than happy.
Your attempts at relationship wish fulfillment can create continued frustration and emptiness until restrictions to self knowledge and inner peril no longer dominate. Then as the super ego steps in with its need to be perfect it uses punishment toward yourself and then toward others, who are now distorted in your mind to appear to be the cause of your negative self feelings. This is termed projection.
Consider this: Real power never requires others to comply and give it to you. Intentions regarding relationships follow the same principals as anything else although these experiences are far more valuable. Relationships provide an opportunity to open up normally closed areas of your heart core and so can show you insidious layers of repressed emotion and thought. Every relationship you enter into is a holy encounter regardless of the out come. Infantile yearnings unsatisfied in the dark side of your inner child emerge significantly in relationships and are a fantastic opportunity for self awareness and correction. The real yearning for love, companionship and sharing can only begin to be fulfilled when the soul is ready to love and give. This must never be confused with the neurotic need to be loved.
The same person who demands others to demonstrate their love first before demonstrating theirs - will never know the truth that giving is receiving and it is true you can reap what you haven first sown! A baby has a small reach as it has limited mobility. It extends it hand to take, to get what it needs to feed it hunger and fill it needs. Instinctual consciousness directs infants while it develops it reach out - only to get what it wants. It gives nothing but it presence and constant demands. It learns to cry to get attention to having it needs met.
Remember needs are of the body and relate to its present survival. Babes learn to love That which fills their needs. Desires or/wishes develop as intelligence does after separation instances occurred when needs weren met. The mind begins its self imaging process and creates the formation of its personality. Desires/wishes are always an attempt based on the past and were efforts of the mind to compensate for what need wasn met in the body. Desires and wishes are hypnotic commands that will now replace the material flow of existence using its belief of wish fulfillments to replace what is they the pictures from the past unmet needs are used to monitor and judge the actions you take today. Wishes and desires are based on imagination - not what is and so it draws one into an illusion based existence caught in the movie playing in their head (perception).
Only when these infant distortions are broken through and adult you learn to give as an adult - from deep in your heart, fearlessly, convincingly, will the depth of a relationship be truly known.
As long as you believe you are really willing to love, but fate is slighting you and whom you can love - you are really ardently engaged in trying to fulfill the childhood need with a substitute parent. The Guide - (Pathwork)
Solution - give up old emotions and beliefs which encase you. - Learn to live in the now - remove all obstructions and real love will fill your present need.
What are adult needs - self - expression, growth, development, realizing ones spiritual potential - and never blaming another for your choices and what is.
Unreal needs are demands made upon others they can never be fulfilled.
To prepare yourself for having satisfying relationships first bring your feelings back to yourself learn to tap your inner resources and open the wells of giving and loving feelings. See the entire path as I show you in the diagram for manifestation The Big Picture of the steps for fulfillment. This is the path to freedom manifestation of your intention.
Remember: No matter how bad your parents failed - they cannot be responsible for your suffering now (i.e. they didn buy you a bike as a kid - so you were deprived and never learned - why haven you bought your own bike as an adult and have someone teach you?) Each time you reference your parents upbringing or past experience as why you made a poor disconnection choice now - you haven taken the responsibility necessary to own your current choice and action, forgive yourself of the mistakes, take corrective action, and peacefully try again.
To succeed in developing core manifestation - it takes a strong willingness and commitment to purify your core. Whenever there is obstruction, un-fulfillment or an un yielding wall in your life, an unreal need has to be looked for. Find and express the voice and recognize fallacy (i.e. notice there are happy people not in romantic relationships).
An infant seeks omnipotent rulership - a special position in which the surrounding world owes it unquestioned obedience. The infant demands everybody fulfill it desires. When it wish can be gratified - and it never can - frustration is enormous. This tension creates a drive for perfection to relieve the tension and obtain the control it feels it. As this is often not realized, feelings of inadequacy, inferiority, regret and guilt build to feed the False Core/False Self.
E xercise: Think of all the many relationships available to you in your work, hobbies, spiritual path, community, volunteering, sports, and other activities. Create a mural or collage of this. Make a mind map showing connections to one another to get a sense of the matrix of your consciousness. Meditate on the pure space of self and experience the unifying connection life has with life regardless of the form, action or location. Learn a deep and satisfying relationship with all of life.
On-going practice: Anytime you find yourself demanding something of others, trying to control everything around you, act hurt to make someone feel bad, do something to gain someone approval, or do something that really goes against who you are and what you value - Stop - Pause - Take a Deep Breath and shout it out This is my (name this infantile strategy) or quo or means of compensation of what I believe I missing) will not victimize myself with this belief anymore. I am aware I can make an adult choice now and I choose to do so. I forgive myself for my mistake and ask guidance for correction of my thinking. What I really want is peace and chose to discover another way to experience it and I open myself to it.
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